If you’re a beauty addict like me, then we’ve all been there. Hanging out with either friends, family, co-workers etc and you notice another person who has done their makeup either all wrong, or are clearly missing an obviously step in their makeup routine.
For me this has happened many times, the most common mistake I’ve found are people who don’t prime their eyes before applying eye shadows, and so it’s crease-ville when I see them.
And time and time again I experience the same dilemma, should I point it out? Or should I ignore it and let them walk through life with creased eye shadow….
The perfectionist in me is so desperate to point it out, more because I suspect many of these people are relatively new or not that…..immersed into makeup as I am (aka crazy makeup addict) , and so perhaps haven’t even heard of eye primer before.
On the other hand, do I want to turn into the snide arrogant girl who points out mistakes on other people? For all I know, perhaps people are loving the creased eye shadow look?? Who knows! (I’ve seen worse!)
Am I alone? What have you done when in the same situation? I’d love to hear what other people think.
Personally? I keep my mouth shut, my thoughts to myself (and the people who read my blog), smile and carry on. Hey! Despite what you may think, makeup isn’t the be all and end all….
*cough*
Funny thing – a coworker was complaining yesterday that her eyeshadow always creases and disappears by lunchtime. I asked if she knew about primer, and she said “oh no, I have sensitive skin so I don’t want to put anything extra on.”
… *shrug* Enjoy your creasing, lady! 8D
lol if it’s so sensitive she probably shouldn’t be wearing any eye shadow to bring with XD;
Thats why I have a blog, I point all that on my blog so I can teach to my followers. But, if their friends or family I just let them know.
That’s true, my blog is a little like an outlet for me in that regard π
I only give advice if I get asked.. Because chances are unsolicited advice either falls on deaf ears or offends the person. If unsolicited advice was welcome, I’d already be going around telling people to choose a better matched foundation shade, how to BLEND eyeshadow (not stenciled racoon eyes) and how to do anti-aging makeup for mature skin.
LOL Stenciled raccoon eyes, you crack me up Akisa XDDDD <3
Same as many of you, I generally keep my mouth shut. If it’s a good friend, I’d probably mention it – but they all know how into makeup I am as well! If it was really really obvious or really bad, I might say “That’s an interesting eyeshadow color…” or something and see where they take it from there, if they mention anything!
I think what would be very awkward is if what looked like an accident turned out to be a mistake? I can’t even think of a real example at the moment, but like say someone’s mascara was running down their face, you point it out to them (just so no one else will stare as they may not be aware) only to realise it was intentionally done that way? Never happened before, but that would be a tough situation to be in!
If they were are good friend and I know they care, I’d point out… otherwise i’d let it go. Who knows what kind of a day they had and makeup looking perfect may be the last thing on their mind!
Veery true! Giving unwanted advice could just trigger off an even worse day π
AH yes, I’ve felt the urge to say something in the past but decided it’s best not to. Like Akisa said, they either get offended or they don’t care. And again I would only say it if I was asked. Sometimes when Im being mega lazy, I dont do everything right and i walk around knowing it’s really bad so on those days, I hope to not bump into anyone I know haha
I bet you see this allll the time back when you worked at Shiseido! Imagine the number of customers you must have seen with bad makeup X_x; (Or even just the number of people roaming the makeup floor).
I’ve had those moments too, unfortunately I ended up running into another beauty blogger but she was nice enough not to say anything XDDD;;
Zoe Foster did a great blog post on this very topic with some great ideas not too long (link below). She’s moved on from Primped since now to Mamamia website instead. I love her humourous and yet always practical advice.
http://www.primped.com.au/blogs/zoes-blog/my-friend-wears-waaaaaay-too-much-makeup-how-can-i-tell-her-this
Oooh! Fantastic post, thanks so much for sharing! Such a great read π
LOL, interesting post with an interesting question today…I think it’s better to keep your mouth shut to avoid embarrassment.
For example – my left eyebrow has a dark blue scar on it from a car crash but many people believe it is eyebrow pencil done wrongly. I have had randoms coming up to tell me this…I even had a friend, who I known for like a week, come up to me, lick her thumb and rub vigorously on my scar (this was like 10 yrs ago when I first had car crash and wound was still painful) – I told her to STOP!!!!
And explained it was a scar… Cue : EMBARASSMENT!!!!
But great topic…hmm….may have to steal this so I can tell the same story on my blog…in which case, you’ve already read it in this comment…pah…!!!
LOLOLOL
My jaw is on the floor, someone actually did that to you!? I wouldn’t even do that to my own bf! I dunno, personal space, RESPECT IT!!! X_x; So sorry you had to go through that, I’ve never noticed that scar before btw!!
Feel free to use the topic π I don’t mind at all~~~
I keep my mouth shut and my eyes away. I have to admit that my thoughts do wander into “D: THIS COULD BE SO MUCH BETTER” territory BUT I feel i’m too much of an amateur to point out such things.
Ahaha, I do that a lot too. Secret judgement “whhhhy??”.
Totally. I have seen dark liner with light lipstick, or 90’s era brown lipstick and wanted to shake the person, ‘are you kidding me?’ But I don’t think you can really say anything. On the other hand, if I had red lippie on my teeth, and a stranger saw me, I would want them to tell me!
Yes! I think it’s kinda like the food in your teeth scenario, you’d hope someone tells you so you don’t continue looking silly, even if being told in that moment is kinda awkward hehe
I think it depends on how well you know the person. To close friends and family, I’d point it out, otherwise I’ll just stay silent. I wouldn’t wanna offend them or something. If it was really really bad, I may steer the conversation towards makeup so that any mention of eyeshadow primer or things like that would be casual.. And then I’d see how they take it from there..
That’s very true, I think with really close friends if it was a mistake I would tell them, but if it was a preference, I’d re consider.
As a rule of thumb, I will point out something tactfully to my friends, but never to an acquaintance. I would hope my friends would point out a dob of mascara on my face! I never give unsolicited advice unless we’ve had that conversation previously like ‘hey, please tell me if I have crap stuck in my teeth!’
That’s really sweet of you, I’d hope my friends would do the same!
I’d prolly just not say anything unless it’s a really close friend or they ask… Or if it’s someone’s blog post, I prolly leave an advise message as an anon LOL…
Creased eyeshadows are not a big thing IMO though.
But one time, this lady was wearing her belt backwards (one of those thick stomach/waist belts) and she was a friend of my Aunty… and we were going shopping at a mall… I HAD to tell her lol >.<! But she insisted saying that "It's the style… even on display at the shop she bought it, it was worn that way on the mannequins…"
LOL ok..
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LOL oh dear, well to quote Sheldon, “If the correct way to do it is the wrong way, then I yield” hehe π At least you did all that you could!
I think it’s best just to maintain a policy of silence! There might be another reason this person doesn’t have primer on – maybe they just didn’t have time to apply it, maybe they just ran out of their tube and haven’t had time to buy a new one, etc etc. The chances of causing offense or seeming presumptuous are too high!
That said, I can TOTALLY relate to how you feel. I used to sell bras, so I always notice badly-fit bras that are either too small, too tight, too big, etcetera. XD I guess that’s why I love writing about lingerie, same as you keeping a blog about makeup! It’s a great outlet for us~
Ooh agreed! I loooove your lingerie posts, I don’t know how you manage to self take some of those photos of yourself missy, that takes some serious skills!! O_O
Great post Celina. I myself wonder at times, if I should let people know whats wrong in there makeup..most common being foundation too light for their skin tone. But I refrain thinking that they may find it offensive.
Fair enough! Yes, obvious mis-matched foundation happens a lot to me as well! But there is no easy to way tell someone, esp cause it’s their whole face!
like many others, i’ll keep my mouth shut. even to close friend, because people will be offended, even close friends. i also make a lot of mistakes myself so i have no right to advise people (as a friend pointed out)
That’s true, though I have to admit I can’t imagine you doing any makeup related mistakes because your photos are always perfect!